I Heart You Mom: A tribute to all mothers
Words by JR Padlan
She scolds, she nags, she criticizes, and sometimes even punishes. Yet for all the times she annoys, pesters or angers us, we know that our mom is the one person who will always be by our side when everything is said and done.
Who would not be grateful to have a woman who has never given up despite the hardships and sacrifices of raising her children?
We are all fortunate that we have a woman who embraces our imperfections and accepts us for who we are. Mothers are the foundations of hope and joy in many families. As such they have become our inspiration to confidently achieve whatever we want to be.
Everyone has his or her own poignant stories about their mothers. This Mother’s Day, let us celebrate how lucky the world is for having such beautiful moms with beautiful hearts.
For most of us Mom is the first person you learn to love.
In my case, my mom was my first kiss. She was the first girl to teach me how to love… and wash the dishes. She was the one who satisfied my Chicken joy cravings with extra rice.
She was my first priest (she would deliver long sermons everyday). Because of her and her machinegun-like mouth, I grew up minding my manners, and developing excellent etiquette and enjoying a positive outlook in life.
She was my first running-mate, tagging after me bringing my shirt, belt, or slippers whenever I ran late. Because of her, I grew up disciplined, and always prepared.
When I was in 6th grade I used to play patintero. I accidentally slipped on the floor and slammed my head against the wall, resulting in a big gash on my forehead. When my mom saw me lying on the ground, blood streaming down my face, she immediately rushed me to the hospital. With my head on her lap, she scolded me in a soft, tearful voice, “Napakakulit mo naman kasi Utoy.”
Ironically, it was at that time that I felt her love the most.
A Mothers’ love
Joey is now an excellent and successful professional in his chosen career because of the overflowing love and support he received from his 81-year-old mom. His mother is sick and he makes sure that she receives all the love she wants and needs on a daily basis.
His mother “taught us how to be responsible in keeping the house - cleaning, washing the dishes, tidying up and taking care of the younger siblings.”
His mother usually likes to be taken out on a date during Mother’s Day. As an obedient son who loves to give back everything his mother has done for him, Joey really grants all her mom’s wishes not just on a special day but every day. He buys her new dresses, or jewelry. He takes her to a cafe for some tête-à-tête over coffee and cake.
“I remember when I was in fourth grade and we were going on a school excursion, my mom took me out to get me a new pair of jeans. I felt special because it was the first time that only she and I were on that short shopping trip, considering that there were four other siblings at that time, and the money was not easy. It made me feel loved.
“I know that whoever or whatever I become, I could come to her whenever I wish and wherever she is,” he shared.
Fulfilling her dreams for her mom
Saying goodbye to your Mom is devastating. Especially when Mother’s Day comes around. Sadly for Samantha, that’s how this Mother’s Day will feel.
“This Mother’s Day won’t be as joyous as it should be for me. But I relish all the fond memories with my mother, and these memories are enough for me to feel her presence.”
Samantha’s mother passed away last month, and it was a big loss for her. She wasn’t able to witness her daughter walking onstage in her toga and finally receiving the diploma she and her mother have been dreaming of.
“Itong diplomang hawak ko ang siyang nagpapa-alala sa nanay ko, kung hindi dahil sa kanya hindi ako makapagtatapos ng pag-aaral. Simula nang mag-aral ako, kahit walang-wala na kami, gagawin niya ang lahat at igagapang ako maipagpatuloy ko lamang ang aking pag-aaral. Sinabi niya rin sa akin na pwede na siyang mawala pag naka-graduate na ako.”
Her mother had been a selfless mom to her that she did not care even about her personal needs just to make sure that Samantha had what she needed to fulfill her goals.
“Walang pakialam si Mama sa sarili niya basta mabigay lang lahat ng gusto at mga pangangailangan ko sa eskuwelahan,” Samantha said.
My mom, the superwoman
For a long time, Kenneth did not know the warmth of a mother’s hug. His mother worked abroad as he and his siblings were growing up.
Despite the challenges of growing up without a mom, however, Kenneth never felt deprived. In fact, he appreciated all the sacrifices and efforts of his mother, and understood the reason she needed to leave the country.
The family recently migrated to Canada, where they reunited with their mom.
“Ma, even though you weren’t able to see us grow up and you weren’t with us during our childhood, there’s no resentment in me. Seeing what you have done for us makes me think how you were able to do that alone. I love you, Ma! Let’s make new memories to cherish,” said Kenneth, who considers his mother a superwoman.
Happiness is a choice
Being a single parent is not easy and Silka salutes her mom for taking on such a big responsibility. Seeing her mom alone dealing with everyday expenses while dealing with her educational needs made her felt important and loved.
“When my parents separated, my Dad was supposed to take me under his care but that would have meant living with his new family and during that time everything was too messed up.”
After what happened, Silka became clinically depressed. At that point, her Mom reminded her that happiness is a choice.
“My mom fought for me and tried to give me the best life she could possibly give and gave me more care and made our then lonely home feel like a happy home,” shared Silka.
Growing up with Lola
Claudine grew up with her grandmother, this is why she is as close to her as her Mom. Her Lola is the one who cooks and prepares the food every time she goes to school and work. Her Lola is also the one who takes care of Claudine when she is sick.
She is there to support her granddaughter in all the things she loves to do.
“My Lola loves me so much and I felt it especially when she and my parents granted my dream to have a debut. It was an unforgettable and special night of my life, and I appreciate all their efforts to make it a success,” she said.
We may not all be perfect sons and daughters, but for one day a year let us make sure we show our appreciation for all of the efforts they do for us.
Let your mother feel how important she is. Spend the day with her, give her a hug, and make this Mother’s Day special.
Mom’s the word
Mom, mommy, mama, mother, mamu or mudra. No matter what you call her,
there’s only one way to describe this important person in your life--special.
Her designation may be Mother, but she is certainly more than that. Mentor, nurse,
counselor, beauty consultant, number one cheerleader, and best friend. She is all these and more. She is the ultimate multitasker, the go-to person for any and every concern you may have--from boo boos to broken hearts, from pep talks to real talk,
from small secrets to big decisions.
Truly, for many of us, WWMD (what would mommy do) is a
constant guide for any issues encountered in life.
For 364 days, she is the lynchpin that keeps everything together. But for one day during the year we set aside our normal activities to celebrate her, and to give her the special treatment she deserves. A special day that she gets all to herself. With this special Mother’s Day issue, we offer up a toast to all the mothers, the nanays, and the mamus who deserve all the love, respect and gratitude in the world.